S e x

Sex is, of course, the area in the personal realm which is most taboo, and in which we are most repressed, although it has, after tens of thousands of years of cultural evolution and slow progress, finally (started to) change significantly in positive directions in the last few decades.

The validity of ideas is independent of their author; the views presented here must be judged on their own merits, and independently of whether I were in real life (hypothetically), a highly repressed person who could only have missionary position sex with all the lights off, the shades down, after having Holy Water sprinkled about; or, a "Sex Radical". [Still, as with the political essays, recipes, etc, these writings are here for sharing with others, but also to define myself for potential friends and more-than-friends. Yet in this society and culture, such honest talk can get one into trouble -- e.g. jobwise; I could file a lawsuit, but do I want to be in the position of having to? Here, I share some of my personal views; on my personal life, I can always be reached by email].

Some of my writings on feminism, sex,
gender, and related cultural issues
(Most of these essays were written a decade ago..)

More recent updates? When I have free time, a term whose
meaning is hard to remember at the moment :-)

O Major Musings and Minor Misgivings about the term "feminism" O

O Penetrating Thoughts on Sex and Language O
Why "Rape Fantasy" and "Penetration" are both misnomers.

O Language and Gender: Why advocating "he or she" is not radical enough O
Here, as elsewhere, "radical" refers to going to the root of the problem, per Greek derivation.

O Sexual Liberation (or: There's No Sex In Violence) O

O 'Hate Speech' and Freedom of Speech. O
How McKinnon's response is like the gay-bashing politician's.
[Susie Bright on McKinnon and her politics, excepted from Sexwise]

  • Coming: Essay on Male Liberation
    (If you think it's a zero-sum game, or that analysis of how society and culture are oppressive
    of men must mean ignoring or diminishing the existence of oppression of women, think again.
    Is "boys don't cry!" any less oppressive than "girls who like/want sex are dirty"?
    Does the gender of most secretaries tell us something about sexism? Yes.
    Does the race of most janitors tell something about racism? Yes.
    Have a look at the military, or at our prison-industrial complex, for starters.
    (rough draft)
    In the meantime, a must-read is Bernie Zilbergelt's The New Male Sexuality -- largely on
    emotions/communication/relating not sex -- available through the (mostly female)
    worker-owned, worker-run feminist sex-positive Open Enterprises, which introduced
    me to this book. See especially chapters 1&2.)

  • Web page of links to others' writings and various sexuality related links...needs updating.. (Or email "h" at this domain for the current list of links on sexuality) do see the one below though:

  • MGM Primer by Rich Winkel -- the shocking truth -- you can help change this. (Thank goodness there is growing awareness to stop female genital mutilation; far less is known about this silent attrocity against baby boys however)

  • Why are Dutch children so happy? Schoolfriend Michell Klimt told the BBC that she thought that teenagers in other countries had to deal with the type of peer pressure that her friends did not have to even consider. "I think in England, for example, there is a lot of pressure on teenagers. There is something on MTV called Virgin Diaries. Girls of 16 and 17 worry because they are still virgins. It's like they have to have sex to be cool," she says. "In Holland, it isn't that important - it doesn't matter to anyone." (07 feb)
  • US couples seek separate bedrooms More and more couples in the US are ordering separate master bedrooms in their new homes to help ensure a more harmonious marriage, research suggests. 07 mar
  • Jen Sorensen's cartoon "Drooly Julie's Church of Sexitarianism" together with her short commentary. (backup copy)