One of the most intense cases for feminism is: not being able to orgasm is not a man's complaint... Men are concerned about being able to get an erection when they want... and being able to cum when they want. I would describe it that way rather than use words like impotence or premature ejaculation, because those are terms that have just been used to devastate men -- they don't describe what's really going on.... in Victorian England, the only reason a woman could divorce her husband was if he were impotent. .. and this is one of the oldest, most profound insults in this Puritanical culture that anyone can think of: that's it -- he cannot perform.