For me, sexual tension means ["]masculine["] and ["]feminine["] [each in both men and women] confrontation and confusion -- that's what's exciting. For other people "top" and "bottom" scenarios are the most important kindling -- what starts the fire. And others will insist that "warm, sunny days on the beach" are the kindling for their sexual desire -- but I don't believe it! Because I like making love on the beach more than anyone -- I like all those "vanilla" activities a lot, but that's not where my sexual taboos are at. That's too nice!

Some people wish that nice things were what pulled all of our sexual triggers (and some nice things do -- I mean tenderness is an aphrodisiac to me), but you wouldn't feel all the soft and tender things if you didn't have something else to compare them to.