1. Do not ever, EVER block the door. Leaving is the last VALVE of
ESCAPE. the last escape valve when i can't take being together with
you any more and/or i might otherwise resort to force if my back is
against the wall and I'm physically forced like a hostage to stay
captive. Do NOT block the door.

2. When I was leaving you said, "let's talk" but I have noticed that
almost every other time I want to talk, you don't want to talk. You
don't initiate, you don't follow-up if I initiate, and if I am asking
you to talk your side and I shut up completely for minutes on end you
say very little even then.

3. Do not make this worse. Do not put my back against the wall on
basic human needs like sleep. Let me sleep if I want, let me sleep
apart if I want/need.

4. Please deal maturely with the fact you will not get what you might
want (namely not getting "Everything is fine and {lots of love}") If
you react badly to that, that will make things worse and then I will
have to respond like I did today only be away from the house even
longer, or I may need to respond with stronger actions about our
living together at all. Dealing with things as an adult, maturely and
being strong and working on yourself for healing, for calming
yourself, for NVC and other kinds of communication, is critical

5. What is Absolutely necessary on your part:

 -i. Not initiating violence, including objects, pushing, screaming etc.

 -ii.  Not screaming but talking like an adult. "I am upset. I don't want
   to talk" etc.

 -iii. INNER CHILD HEALING BY YOU -- not a one-time thing but an on-going
 (That means never-ending part of life, just like brushing teeth is)
   OTHERWISE OUR RELATIONSHIP IS DOOMED. IT IS IN YOUR HANDS. YOU KEEP
 SAYING YOU WILL DO IT, BUT YOU KEEP NOT DOING IT. YOU KEEP SAYING YOU
 WILL FIND AN INNER HEALING THING, BUT YOU DON'T. UNLESS YOU DO IT
 EVERY SINGLE WEEK, IDEALLY EVERY SINGLE DAY, AND AT LEAST SEVERAL
 TIMES A WEEK, OUR RELATIONSHIP IS DOOMED TO FAIL AND IS DOOMED TO
 END. ONLY BY PRACTICING REGULAR INNER HEALING (IN ADDITION TO, NOT
 INSTEAD OF, EXERCISE AND RELAXATION. RELAXATION AND EXERCISE ARE NOT
 THE SAME, AND INNER HEALING IS RELATED BUT BUT IS NOT THE SAME AS
 GENERAL RELAXATION)

--iv. ADDRESS serious Life Addictions like INTERNET ADDICTION, the 
turmoil related to that, getting SOME SUNLIGHT, and not
procrastinating job-application to the point they either (a) screw you
or (b) carry a serious risk of screwing you or (c) cause you tension
which causes more procrastination in a vicious circle. The preceding
items in iii. will help you achieve success in these areas IF you seriously
work on the above item.

--v. Then after the above life issues, yes, exercise and eating too, but 
the preceding items probably need to be addressed  before you can make
progress on EWE (eating/weight/exercise) issues, so SERIOUSLY
ADDRESSING iii and iv IS CRITICAL.

6. Almost every time I want to talk, you don't want to talk. You don't
initiate, you don't follow-up if I initiate, and if I am asking you to
talk your side and I shut up completely for minutes on end you say
very little even then. YET when things get really really back, you
"want to talk"

7. See the first point at the top of this list.