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Sex is, of course, the area in the personal realm which is most
taboo, and in which we are most repressed, although it has, after tens
of thousands of years of cultural evolution and slow progress, finally
(started to) change significantly in positive directions in the last
The validity of ideas is independent of their author; the views
presented here must be judged on their own merits, and independently
of whether I were in real life (hypothetically), a highly repressed
person who could only have missionary position sex with all the lights
off, the shades down, after having Holy Water sprinkled about; or, a
[Still, as with the political essays, recipes, etc, these
writings are here for sharing with others, but also to define myself
for potential friends and more-than-friends. Yet in this society and
culture, such honest talk can get one into trouble --
e.g. jobwise; I could file a lawsuit, but do I want to be in
the position of having to? Here, I share some of my personal views; on
my personal life, I can always be reached by email].
| ||Some of my writings on feminism, sex,
gender, and related cultural issues
O Major Musings and Minor Misgivings
about the term "feminism" O
O Penetrating Thoughts on Sex and
Why "Rape Fantasy" and "Penetration" are both
O Language and Gender: Why advocating
"he or she" is not radical enough O
Here, as elsewhere, "radical" refers to going to the
root of the problem, per Greek derivation.
O Sexual Liberation (or:
There's No Sex In Violence) O
O Are People Inherently Bisexual? O
And if so, is that the end of the discussion?
O 'Hate Speech' and Freedom of
Speech. O Obscenity
Coming: Essay on
How McKinnon's response is
like the gay-bashing politician's.
[Susie Bright on
McKinnon and her politics, excepted from Sexwise]
(If you think it's a zero-sum game, or that analysis
of how society and culture are oppressive
of men must mean ignoring
or diminishing the existence of oppression of women, think again.
Is "boys don't cry!" any less oppressive than "girls who like/want
sex are dirty"?
Does the gender of most secretaries tell us something about
Does the race of most janitors tell something about
Have a look at the military, or at our
prison-industrial complex, for starters.
In the meantime, a must-read is Bernie Zilbergelt's
The New Male Sexuality -- largely on
emotions/communication/relating not sex --
available through the (mostly female)
worker-owned, worker-run feminist sex-positive
Open Enterprises, which
me to this book. See especially chapters 1&2.)
(Society's "Warped Attitude"; Sex as Sacred; Lots of Links)
Essay (Sexual Repression; Sexual Liberation; Towards
a Sex Positive Culture)
thoughts on sexuality (On our Humanity; Gender Roles;
||Other People's Writings
If you don't know the thing you're dealin'... Ooohh,
I can tell you, darlin', that it's Sexual Healin' -Marvin Gaye
For Our Family by Liz Derr: a thought provoking
idealized model of a working polyamorous family.
From A Married Anarchist by Dennis Fox
UUPA Unitarian Universalists
for Polyamory Awareness. (poly
contracts from the legal
division A Bonobo link was found
photos of chimps, click images, eventually shows pictures
of bonobos, nice (other links at html-comments)
linked to from:
http://www.primates.com/bonobos/ (very nice photos, links to this
too...) (LOOK at: http://www.bltc.com/ )
Bonobo Sex and
Susie Bright's website
see also my Susie
Bright Heros page..
"common chimps resolve sexual issues with
power. Bonobos resolve power issues with sex."
Asimov on being a proud "dirty old man"?!
Frank Moore on
of Tanpan (SFweekly: More is
Cave of F Moore and his memoir, Art of Shaman
Maya's Page on
Susie Bright has many more links to info about
My own Susie Bright page
has many excepts of some of SB's best essays.
Equality and Freedom
(page of links I put up as part of the
||Related Web Pages
Bite my lip and close my eyes / Take me away to
When I Was A
Boy song/lyrics by Dar Williams.
Primer by Rich Winkel -- shocking truth -- you can help change this.